What is Addictive demand: An expectation or model that makes you feel upset or unhappy if it is not satisfied. A demand that causes body tension, separating emotions, and or mind disturbance.
What is Preference: A desire that does not trigger any separating feelings or tensions in your mind or body weather or not your desire is satisfied.
I have now learn that to be happy most of the time I needed to stop demanding and expecting that people and situations will always be in sync with what I would like life to be like. I realize that by demanding and expecting I am setting up myself for major struggles and loads of unhappiness. Unlike a preference, if people don’t act the way I expected and situations does not happen the way I think it should, then it will not disturb my happiness and peace.
My feelings of disappointment because the world is not confirming to what I want or need becomes a whole lot easier to handle because I am now using my energy more efficiently. I am operating from a place of acceptance and understanding. I can still think that my way was the correct way for certain situations, but I am able to let go and move on without causing myself stress and unhappiness. I am able to come from a place of peace and calm.
With preferring I am able to remember that my true nature is peace. I am able to remember that to Love myself I need to remember that an unhealthy mind creates an unhealthy body, spirit and soul. I now know that Loving is key to living a life of unlimited happiness.
By choosing Preferring over demanding and I now have greater clarity in every area of my life.
With Preference I am able to develop a pure energy of enjoyment, excitement and the ability to handle adversity . I find that I welcome adversity in my life because I see them as gifts, as blessings. With Preferences I become the master of my experiences.
jcat@Lovingiskey.com
